Audacious Alexa is back interviewing Sassy SWers advocating for louder, uncensored expression
Having grown up as a Mormon in Utah, Karlee described her upbringing as being "more on the conservative side - we were incredibly locked down Mormons". The journey to discovering who Karlee was beyond what she had been told was right and wrong, has led her to encourage others to live in their truth. This is something that shines through in her conversation with Audacious Alexa as they unpick the way vulnerability can be a source of strength. And how sharing perspectives without becoming defensive is a fundamental way of respecting and freeing one another.
Tune into the podcast below or watch the full interview via the Audacious Alexa video channel here.
What's your current purpose in life?
Currently, I'm figuring out how to live my truth fluidly and without shame, to inspire other people to do the same. To push them to be multidimensional beings - be as many things as you possibly can be. That freedom of expression is important to me
What's your online persona like?
Honestly, when you go to my profile, I'm giving that front of hot girl, half naked. But for me, growing up in the conditions that I did, this is a huge way for me to express and be this sexy, strong, powerful presence online. In my stories, you see my core personality of being this fun, goofy person and I feel those two co-exist quite nicely.
It's one thing to feel like you know who you are but another to be vulnerable with it and put yourself in the face of endless people and their opinions and say "I am still me regardless of what others think"
How has the content you've put out shaped your relationships?
I grew up Mormon, so a bit more on the conservative side. But as we've all grown up and lived our lives, my mums softened to see that you can still be a good person and live a good life, even if you don't follow specific rules and guidelines, or believe in a God. But everyone else that I've met in the past few years has been incredibly supportive.
We all believe that we're right, that we've figured out the truth. So when someone goes against that belief, it feels like a personal attack and people get defensive. It's as simple (tho not easy) as remembering that everyone thinks they're right in one way or another. So as long as you're not harming people, I think it's beautiful to see what everyone is actually capable of being without shame or guilt attached to it.
I think it's beautiful to see what everyone is actually capable of being without shame or guilt attached to it
How have you seen the Mormon faith impact those around you?
People are explosive and everyone has a million things that are so beautiful and important, so it kills me to have seen so many people who will never figure out who they are. When they're stuck in this repressive religion their whole life and taught not to have sex before marriage. So they start dating right out of high school and then they're married by 19-20, have kids by 23-25 and then the self-journey of seeking individuality is gone. I think it's so important to figure out who you are outside of ties. That's an important message I try to share with people.
I think it's so important to figure out who you are outside of ties. That's an important message I try to share with people
Do you worry about how people interpret your work?
I think whenever you're putting things out for others to see, you're always going to be misinterpreted. My deepest insecurities are rooted in being misunderstood and not being seen. When I was younger people treated me horribly because of it. It's been a trip putting myself out there on the internet and I have a lot of opinions and beliefs I want to share. So the thing I've been working on is finding the most peace while knowing that anyone can see you in any given way. It's ever-changing what people will absorb you as, it's rare that people will see you as a person - they'll either be analyzing you and thinking 'what can this person do for me' or 'is this person a threat to me'.
I've been going through a process of letting go of other people's perceptions and speaking my truth as clearly as possible, from the heart, knowing I will attract the people I'm looking for.
What do you hope your future will look like?
I love connecting with people, live-streaming, and podcasting. My dream since I was a kid was to have a talk show which is the big thing I'm reaching for at the moment - be a safe space for people on a large platform. So I need to find the bravery to be endlessly perceived, not just for my body, but for my opinions and my core beliefs and putting those out there for everyone.
What does your Sassy side look like?
I see people, firstly, through the eyes of compassion, even if they have completely different views to me. When going through hard things in general, the mantra I have for myself is 'patience, grace, and eventual understanding' - they are the three things that get me through life. Realising there's something bigger taking you through life and you will find something of value, even if it's years later. Be sure that whatever you're going through, it will end.
When going through hard things in general, the mantra I have for myself is 'patience, grace, and eventual understanding' - they are the three things that get me through life
How can we support one another in the face of censorship?
I've found these communities of hairy and sex worker communities to be very supportive and not competitive because it's so small and niche. Most society is against it, we've found a way to be in power by that. Body hair and sexuality are two things that are very natural and somewhere along the way, we've decided it's not - so I have great respect for anyone who lives "outside of the box" and are empowered through their own soul, rather than looking outward.